Y’all….we aren’t perfect but boy do we hold ourselves to that standard. I was about 15 days into this whole30 round and my boyfriend had just had surgery. He ended up back in the hospital with some complications, and I caught the dreaded strep throat. Talk about stress….
I made it all the way through his hospitalization without breaking and came home on Valentine’s Day only to find my throat on fire. I believe in home remedies so a shot of bourbon it was!
Oh…Frick….I can’t have that right now.
Que the thought distortions!
And there I sat knowing I blew it, at least that’s what my mind told me. I didn’t give myself any grace. Here I am trying to write health blogs and I can’t even practice what I preach!
I think when we’re learning a new way to live (aka a new lifestyle) we’re wayyyyyy too hard on ourselves. I mean life can throw whatever life pleases at us no matter the goals we’re trying to accomplish. Friends I think we set the bar way too high when it comes to trying new things.
You don’t expect a toddler who doesn’t know how to shoot a basketball yet to make every shot…and let’s be honest, we’re basically all toddlers trying to learn here. So instead of having that thought distortion that “I messed up and I suck and I can’t do this anymore”…REFRAME IT AND TAKE BACK THE CONTROL!
How can you stay away from “all-or-nothing” thinking? Here’s some tips to get you back on track:
1. Avoid the temptation to over generalize! Watch the words like, “always, never, forever, etc…” - "I always tend to fail, why did I set this expectation for myself in the first place?
2. Be logical: Would you rather be perfect or progressing?- I’m not doing Whole30 perfectly, my 15 days is the longest I’ve ever gone - #progress
3. Change your mental filter..try to always look at the positive instead of the negative. Practice your daily gratitudes! - Your strep is almost gone, just get back on girl.
4. Watch your tendency for jumping to conclusions...take a step back, breathe, think…. - I suck I don’t deserve to write a blog and I’ll never be healthy enough to do this.
5. Don't “should” on yourself for the past. “I should have done this_________, I should have done that___________.” - I should have just suffered through it until I could get an antibiotic
6. Focus on what you can do today! Stay present! - I can get back on track today!
7. Be aware of emotional reasoning… just because you failed doesn’t mean you are a FAILURE! Separate your actions from how you are as a person! We fail our way to success!! - I failed, I shouldn’t even continue..
8. Try not to take everything personally, take a step back and reevaluate the situation- Everyone is going to think so little of me for failing….(who cares what people think, this is my journey?)
9. Dial back from magnifying a problem and hyper-focusing on it (which builds on the negativity)- Poor me, I have strep and I’m stressed…my life is the worst. I’ll never be able to do this <— Also number one
10. Celebrate the small victories! - I started Whole30 in the first place!!
Which one of these do you struggle with the most? And what strategies would help you the most overcome that thought pattern? Answer in the comments below!